Chemo Day Two

The pump is pumping and while it's pumping, I am getting more and more tired. Pat and Bennett both have mild colds, so we are all a little out of sorts. Bennett, right now, is refusing to get into the tub, I am posting and poor Pat is running interference between the tub and our stubborn daughter.

Today I took B to school, went to reflexology and had an hour-long meeting with the pastor of St Paul's church. I took a short nap, went with P&B to pick up our new to us car and now I am about to fall over. Tomorrow I have to go to Worcester to return the pump. The only other thing I have to do is take B to school. My ride is not available until after noon, so I should have enough time to have a nap and get my ears in order. BTW it took until noon today for my ears to fix themselves. Usually it's about 10, but today was especially challenging. I really think it's a side effect from the chemo - even though Dr. B says he's never seen this as a side effect.

Reflexology was a dream. I wish I could go every day. I had an appointment with a therapist last night that I had to cancel. I am really sorry, because it is someone I want to work with. I will call tomorrow and make sure that we can reschedule. I had an appointment with an oncology social worker at UMASS. It was okay. There is only one OSW for the entire program so she doesn't take on hourly clients, but is available to talk anytime I am there for chemo. She did most of the talking and didn't really seem that interested in eliciting anything from me. I guess that experience will help me know more about what I am looking for in a therapist.

My time with Pastor Barbara was really great. She is very open and affirming (code for gay-friendly), had a lot of nice things to say about Holyoke and our community. She was great at answering my questions and made me want to continue to have a relationship with St Paul's. She is going to arrange for a healing prayer thing that will happen during the service - more than just reading the names of those who would like a prayer. I really appreciated that, and of course burst into tears. I am going to the 10am service on Sunday to witness a baptism, which I have never seen. I am sort of looking forward to it. This is one of those things that is a big surprise to me.

So, tomorrow more will be revealed. Right now I am about to fall asleep right here from tiredness. I wish I had more energy, really, it would be helpful.

What Happened Today

Isn't that what every blog post should be called? Really, because this is what happened today.

We all slept in until 7:30 and I had to be to church at 8. I washed what is left of my hair and prayed that my ears wouldn't blow (they did) and that I wouldn't be late. Deanna hooked me up with two long-time St Paul goers. Kathy and Tim were the perfect hosts and introduced me to Pastor Barbara who was super nice. The service was lovely and quiet. I will try the 10am service next week, which is supposed to be quite lively. I have an appointment with Pastor B on Wednesday to talk about what it means to be part of a church, etc. I'll keep you posted. I really liked my experience at St Paul's and can understand why a person would want to be a part of it.

I got home and we were all so tired that we went back to bed. There was no actual sleeping because Bennett wasn't quite as tired as we were, but it was nice to cuddle and chat. Pat took Bennett to a dress up birthday party - Bennett was Fairy Dora. She couldn't decide between being a princess and Dora, and why should she have to? So she looked wicked cute in her blue and purple tutu, Dora shirt and purple backpack. She wore that all day- until it was time to trick-or-treat - then is was about 45 degrees. It's hard to see a costume under a winter coat and hat. We had to tell B is was not polite to walk down the street yelling "it's time to get candy" at the top of her lungs. She quickly got the hang of "trick or treat" and "thank you." She got a ton of candy from just six or seven houses, plenty to last a good long while.

I got in a nice nap and did a few things around the house. Made sure the kitty is still on the mend, and that's about it. I have to say that I am not that too happy about tomorrow, Monday. Though I am feeling good, I am worried about having B all day by myself. I am going to keep it a nice quiet day, which she needs more than anything. That means I will have to figure out how to occupy my mind while B gets a quiet day. Any ideas? I am going to look into getting an oncology social worker instead of a therapist. I am going to call UMASS to find out if they offer anything like that. I bet they do. I bet I could see that person the day I have chemo. Wouldn't that be perfect?

My thought is an oncology social worker, or someone like that would be better for me than a nice lady in a home office in Northampton. I've done that, and I need something a little grittier. I do have an appointment with just such a Noho lady not this week, but next. The first therapist who had opening and time and takes my insurance. We shall see. I don't have much hope because I really want someone who is in the world of cancer treatment.  This is good to know and I will start my new quest tomorrow. I suppose one could say I didn't find a therapist for a reason...